Self-centeredness is a defect of character I have to constantly ask God to remove. It has been the source of most of my problems, most of my pain. Decisions based on self have led me to put expectations on others that they could not possibly fulfill. When they did not meet my expectations, there was all hell to pay! I proceeded to make life miserable in any way that I could for that person. If it was in a romantic relationship, some of the methods used were the silent treatment, not coming home, taking up with another lover or sitting around pouting like a five-year-old until I got my way.
Today the endless spiral of self-centered behavior is in the process of being healed. I am building a new foundation of being in love with and being honest with myself.