I’ll be the first to admit I don’t talk nice to myself when I lose my glasses somewhere in the house or mistakenly lock the door with my keys in the house or forget to keep up with my finances and a check bounces. I could go on and on but when these things happen, I am trying to become aware of the thoughts I’m thinking about myself and I hear a voice in my head that is full of judgment, disapproval and mean. The only way I can change the pattern is to not be unconscious as I go about my daily life and by being present when I am doing a task that requires my attention.
Today when I make a mistake, I will not use a hammer to beat myself up, I will use a feather and talk more gently and kindly to myself.