There was a time in my neediness that I would settle for a relationship that would dishonor me as a woman. At the time, I did not have enough self-worth to remove myself from the situation. My need to be with someone was stronger than the need to protect myself from demeaning situations. It was all my choice though. I was not a victim.
Today I recognize fully and consciously when I am playing the victim. There is no need to blame anyone for my pain and suffering when I am taking responsibility for my choices.